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What you need to know about “LOVE”.

Posted by DreamSharer on September 23, 2012

Two tear drops were floating down the river. One teardrop said to the other, “I’m the teardrop of a girl who loved a man and lost him. Who are you?”…”I’m the teardrop of the man who regretted letting a girl go…”

There is this stereotype that women get hurt and feel and are emotional while men are not. The only difference I see between most men and women is that girls are more vocal about their pain and hurt while men keep it to themselves and suffer in silence.

You’ll know that you miss someone very much when every time you think of that person, your heart breaks into pieces and just a quick “Hello” from that person can bring the broken pieces back together. Love is a strange emotion. Very quickly that person becomes the reason for your joy and the reason for your pain and he becomes your whole world!

What I can say about love is that you need to give it unconditionally. Don’t expect love in return, just wait for it and allow it to grow in his heart, if it doesn’t, the just take delight and feel happy that it grew in yours.

Love is a force of nature, we can not command, demand, or make love disappear. Love is bigger than any of us are. You can hope for it and  invite love to your life, but you cannot dictate how, when, and where love expresses itself in your life. You can choose to surrender to love, or not, but in the end love strikes like lightening, unpredictable and irrefutable. You can even find yourself loving someone you don’t like at all. Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, addendums, or codes. Love just radiates independently.

Love is free. It cannot be bought, sold, or traded. You cannot make someone love you, and you also cannot prevent it from happening. Love cannot be imprisoned nor can it be legislated. Love is not a substance, not a commodity, and it is not even a marketable power source. Love has no territories, no borders, no quantifiable mass or energy output.

One can buy many things ranging from loyalty, companionship, attention, to perhaps even compassion, but love itself cannot be bought.  Whether love happens, or not, it does by its own grace, of its own will and in its own timing, it is never subject to our plans.

Love does not threaten to withhold itself if it doesn’t get what it wants. Love does not say, directly or indirectly, “If you are a bad boy, Mommy won’t love you any more.” Love does not say, “Daddy’s little girl doesn’t do that.” Love does not say, “If you want to be loved you must be nice, or do what I want, or never love anyone else, or promise you’ll never leave me.”

Love cares about what happens to you because love knows that we are all connected. Love is compassionate and empathic.  This is the true nature of love and it is worth remembering that love can not be manipulated or restrained. Love actually honors the sovereignty of each soul. Love is its own law.

True Love is Caring.

Ancient Greeks had many different names for different forms of love: passion, virtuous, affection for the family, desire, and general affection. However, no matter where you come from or how you define love, all definitions have one common trait: Love is caring.

 

True Love is Attractive.

Attraction and chemistry cause people to have the bond allowing them to mate. Without this romantic desire for one another, a relationship is devoid from love and is nothing but lust or infatuation.

 

True Love is Attached.

I can compare love to the mother-child bond, attachment comes after the initial attraction between a couple. Attachment is the long term love that occurs anywhere between one to three years into the romantic relationship.  You’ll know you’ve found love when you can honestly say, “I’ve seen the worst and the best my partner can offer, and I still love him/her.”

 

True Love is Committed.

Commitment in love is more than just monogamy. Its the knowledge that your partner cares for you and has your back, no matter what happens or  the circumstances. Couples who are strongly committed to one another will, when they are faced with negative information about their partner, see and focus only the positive.

 

True Love is Intimate.

In order to know each other, you need to share parts of yourselves with one another. True love is sharing. This self-revealing behavior, when it is reciprocated, it forms a very strong and emotional bond. Over time, this strong bond strengthens and evolves, so the couple merge closer and closer together becoming stronger than ever before. Intimacy is a great element of a relationship.